Most of the moms I know are busy. We are trying to get about 50 hours of stuff done in 24 hours. I don’t know about you but I strive to be organized. I feel like I work hard. I feel like I have my priorities in order most days. But do you ever have days or weeks where the plans you had in your head for how the week would go just don’t happen? Don’t fret, you are not alone. If you scroll through my Facebook, Instagram or Twitter feeds, yes I may have a social media problem, you will find a beautiful little girl all smiles in adorable outfits. The only pictures of my house are ones where it is clean. There are no dog nose prints on the glass doors, no dog hair covering the couch, the floors, oh let’s face it, on most days dog hair covers everything in my house. The dishes are not only washed but also put away. But I am going to let you in on a secret. Even my life doesn’t look like that everyday. And guess what? I don’t always pack a Pinterest worthy lunch for my daughter.
I am going to let you in on some of my best #mommymoments from this week. It started Monday morning. I always picture a new week starting off with a clean slate. This is my week. I will conquer! I am #supermom. This usually lasts about 7 1/2 minutes.
On this particular Monday morning, my daughter was sitting at the bar eating breakfast watching her iPad. I know #momfail #1. Shouldn’t I be playing classical music in the background and talking about things that will mentally stimulate her 9-year-old brain? But I digress. So as she ate breakfast I was packing her lunch for camp. I went to the pantry, pulled out the bread and realized we only had one slice left. This lonely piece of bread along with the one slice of cheese and two slices of ham in the fridge would have to make her sandwich. I thought, at least she is watching her iPad so I can sneak her pitiful sandwich into her lunchbox and she won’t find out until she opens it at lunch. Am I awful? But no such luck. I hear her say, “Mom, why are you only using 1 slice of bread?” To which I replied, “You have not been eating a whole sandwich the last few days so we will try half a sandwich today.” Moms have to be quick on our feet. Now I know what some of you are thinking, you just lied to your kid. But I think this is one of those gray areas for us moms. Who’s with me?
Tuesday was actually pretty uneventful. So uneventful in fact, that instead of finishing the dishes and doing laundry I decided it was a great night to go to the neighborhood pool with the family, eat ice cream and watch NetFlix. It wasn’t until 10 minutes before we were supposed to leave on Wednesday morning that I discovered the error of my ways. I told Reagan to get her camp shirt, the one she is required to wear, out of the dryer. I guess in my mind I did the laundry. When I came upstairs she wasn’t dressed. I asked her, “Why aren’t you dressed?” To which she replied, “My shirt isn’t in the dryer.” I looked at the pile of laundry on the guest bedroom bed. The laundry that was clean but that still needed to be folded and put away. We began to dig through it. No camp shirt. I ran back to the laundry room and began going through the piles of laundry that were on the floor instead of in the basket. I found one of the two camp shirts we were provided with. I smelled it. It wasn’t awful. I grabbed a dryer sheet and threw it along with the dirty camp shirt into the dryer. In the meantime we brushed teeth and did hair. I grabbed the sort of clean smelling shirt out of the dryer and off we went.
Today I could beat myself up because I had some #mommoments that weren’t Facebook status worthy and I didn’t do the things that needed to be done. But the bottom line is, my child didn’t go hungry. She went to camp fully dressed. We had a nice relaxing evening the other night. And while I still need to buy bread and finish the dishes and the laundry is still piled on the laundry room floor, I can say that while my life might not be perfect it works for us. I am learning to embrace my life, flaws and all. I am a #perfectlyflawed mother and that is o.k. Some days the house is really organized and clean. Some days I cook a really nice meal. Some days we eat frozen pizza. Some days we dress cute and some days we just get dressed. And some days we don’t even get dressed. I love a day at home in pjs. Some days I get up early and go for a run before work and some days I decide my body wants sleep. Some days I eat healthy foods and don’t drink Diet Coke. Other days I down a 44 ounce Diet Cherry Coke and eat junk. I am striving for balance. I am trying to eliminate perfect from my vocabulary. I tell my daughter when she is practicing the piano, gymnastics or working on school stuff that practice doesn’t make perfect. Practice makes progress and #imperfectprogress is still progress and that is what we strive for.
I would love to hear about your #mommymoments from the last week. Let’s be moms who let go of perfection and share how we are making #imperfectprogress. We need each other. I love what Ann Voskamp says:
Let’s be Key Women!
Jesus, I ask that you help each one of us to remember that while you are perfect we are imperfect humans. Help us to not let our imperfections make us lazy or complacent. Help us to strive to be our best selves but to realize that we do not have to live up to impossible standards. Help us to be free from the voices that tell us we are not enough, that we have failed if our homes do not look like a magazine cover. Help us to realize that we are created in your image and that reflecting your love, mercy and grace to our families, friends, the world and to ourselves is the most important thing. Help us to make progress in the areas where we are struggling and help us to not be discouraged by #imperfectprogress. Help us to be the women and mothers that you have called us to be not the ones the world tells us we need to be. Thank you for the ones you have blessed us with. In Jesus’ name, Amen.